"Who are you? You are the the truth out screaming these lies. You are the truth, saving my life."

I spent some time skimming through a survey people on myspace filled out. There was one question that caught my eye:
"Do you believe in changing yourself for another person?"

Everyone's answers consisted of something like this,
"Yes, if you truly love the person, you will change for them."

Now, mind you, most of the people I know on myspace are around my age.  I guess that's not much of an excuse, though, because I'm sure there's people who are older than me who would choose the same thing.

I'm completely against that, though.  I don't believe in changing yourself-for anyone.  I did that, once.  I changed the way I dressed, the way I did my hair, who I talked to, what I believed in, all for a person.  I thought he would love me for changing myself.  I thought we would be together forever.  With him, I didn't need anyone else.  So, as long as I changed myself, there was no worries; he would love me, end of story.

well, obviously I learned that nothing lasts forever.  By making the mistake of changing myself for him, I lost other people in my life.  I lost my status at school and had very few friends because of my previous decision.

It taught me a lesson, though.  It showed me why you cannot change for other people.
When it comes down to it,  you really do have to look out for yourself because people let you down in life. 

I hate the idea of somebody changing who they are for another person.  You're robbing yourself of your own personal happiness to satisfy someone else who doesn't truly appreciate you.

My life is different, now.  I have more friends, and through all the crud that happens, my heart is happy.  I'm glad I went through the learning process, and rose up from my mistakes.

so, to end the long, drawn out story..
life lesson: never change yourself for anybody, no matter what.